Parenting Styles
- The Haven House
- Mar 13, 2019
- 3 min read
Earlier this week we discussed a few parenting tips on how to best connect with your children. Today we will take those key foundational steps and dive deeper into the four different types of parenting styles. These parenting styles are not only an extension of your personality but the effect the atmosphere and culture of your home.
Authoritarian
Authoritarian parents believe children should not have input in the everyday home activities. These parents are very demanding and controlling which is implemented in discipline and strict household rules. Children who grow up in this type of household are often timid, lack confidence and are always looking to submit to authority.
You might be a authoritarian parent if...
You don't ask for your children’s opinion
You may have been told you set too high of standards for your children
You are very strict with household rules
You respond to your children with “Because I said so” when they as “why” questions
Permissive
Permissive parents are overall friendly and try to stay out of their children’s way in fear of being overdemanding. They fall into three subcategories, accommodation, compensation and absent. Permissive accommodation parents take on the role of a cool older friend rather than establishing a parent role. Permissive compensation parents try to give their child what they did not have when they themselves were younger. In this category, children are likely to receive all the things they ask for. Permissive absent parents disregard their parenting role for a number of reasons ranging from work, income, or self-involvement.
You might be a permissive parent if...
You think your child will learn discipline from life events rather than advice from a parent.
You have very little rules in the household.
You do not ever punish your children.
Uninvolved
Uninvolved parents are just what they seem. They tend to let the child do what they want when they want. They do not feel the need to be present or enforce rules.
You might be an uninvolved parent if...
You think your child does not need you
You respond to your children’s questions with “do whatever you want to” or “I don't care”
Authoritative
Authoritative parents believe in setting rules, but they also allow their children to give input. They are active listeners to their children's thoughts and opinions, while still asserting their position as the leader of the household. They are involved, but not overbearing. Children with these types of parents are often very responsible, independent and are not afraid to take risks.
You might be an authoritative parent if...
You explain your reasoning for rules and disciplinary actions
You consistently ask and listen to your child’s opinions
You believe in setting an example for your children so that they can become responsible adults
It is important to remember each parent has their own parenting style. The parent’s personality combined with one of these styles makes for a unique parenting style. Jen Pollard, a community mentor, and family development coach says, “Parents should discuss their desired parenting styles and determine a strategy to best parent their children within the first few months of having a child.” It is essential parents are on the same page and are consistent in their styles to best benefit their children.
What parenting style are you and how have you seen this effect in your household? Share it with us in the comments! Stay tuned for next week’s Haven House Kitchen discussion on education and academics for your children.
References:
Morin, A., & Gans, S. (April, 2019). 4 Types of Parenting Styles and Their Effects on Kids. Retrieved from https://www.verywellfamily.com/types-of-parenting-styles-1095045
Determining Your Parenting Style. (2006, July 05). Retrieved from https://www.familyeducation.com/life/discipline-strategies/determining-your-parenting-style
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